February 26, 2020
Palliative Care and Nursing
Your role in a family changes suddenly when your parents start ageing. Once who looked after and care for them and their happiness. You will find numbers of nursing homes which will do these things for you but it is a hard decision to separate yourself from the one with whom you have spent your life with. People who send their parents to nursing home often find guilty of themselves. But what about those who do not? Are they doing right for their parents? Many believe that they are doing right but actually they are not. If you are one of those who keep their ageing parents with themselves, then you should send them to your nearby nursing home. There is not one, but so many reasons to do so, some of them I have explained below to convince you.
You can’t know or predict the medical condition of your ageing parents, unless you are a good doctor. Taking good care of the health of your aged parent might sound manageable in the beginning, but latterly develops into a major problem which requires your attention all the time. Many doctors have pointed out that without proper supervision, old peoples are likely to get issues such as incontinence, dementia and limited mobility. Your decision to look after your ageing parents doesn’t prepare you to meet the health care they demand. Is it possible for you to manage medication, keep track of appointments of doctors and cope with the sudden change in the behavior of your parents? Of course not. On the other hand, the nursing home offers round the clock health care and assistance by highly professional staff which keep knowledge of a number of medical conditions, always ready to look after your parents.
Apart from looking after your ageing parents, you also have other personal obligations which too need to be fulfilled. Doing your work and managing your household, for sure will reduce the time you need to spend with your parents. Doing all at one, can lead you to stress, deteriorating family relationships and reduces your involvement in other activities and also disturbs your sleeping pattern. The situation can further worsen if your parent’s condition includes serious symptoms, like mood swinging. So, instead of sacrificing your personal life for a thing which is possible, rather done better in another way is not a good idea. That other way is to send your parents to a good nursing home.
Even if you are a doctor, you cannot look after any other, as it requires time and energy. It can be more damaging if you are fighting with your own medical problems simultaneously. Your spirit might allow you to look after your old parents, but you physically are not able to do so. In case you are still able to do so, then you are likely to get more physical damage than your parents. In the end, you too will need to be looked after.
he cost of in-home caring is another reason to opt for sending your ageing parents to nursing homes. Financial services such as Medicaid and health insurance are not always enough to fulfill all medical expenses of your parents, especially if they are involved in any serious condition. In addition to medical expenses, some other expenses like that of surgical instruments and that of home upgrades required to suit your parent’s condition will surely exist in your expense list. On the other hand, a quality nursing home might sound expensive to you in the beginning as compared to in-home care, but you will find it affordable in a long run.
Are eating, sleeping and watching TV the only works suitable to your old parents? Not at all. They are old but not dead. They too need a social life and want to do something productive. At a time when you and your spouse are out for work and your kids are in school, then your parents are left with what? Only a TV or newspaper? You need to realize that they also demand a quality life. That is where nursing homes have a say. Your parents will meet other people of the same age group in those nursing and are likely to become good pals. I bet your parents will enjoy their company, more than that of yours. Apart from it, nursing homes also keep them busy in a number of activities suitable to them to make them realize that they are still a part of this world.
Things become even harder when you have siblings. Who will take the responsibility? Every sibling of yours might be eager to in the beginning, but for the above reasons, their eagerness will not last longer. The decision will become tougher with each passing day. Each of you would neither reject to take responsibility nor accept it because of above reasons. So, a very wise decision is to send them to a nursing home. In this way, the relation among your siblings will not break.
Thus, sending your ageing parents to a nursing home is good for you and for your parents as well. This doesn’t at all means to send your parents to a nursing home and forget them. Try to meet them, at least, every third day and bring them to home as well, once in a week. In this way, your parents will remain a part of your family, not a burden on you. Those who still think that sending one’s parents to a nursing home is not appropriate, should rethink their consideration and try to understand that this might be bitter, but is a part of life.